Love regenerates the more you love regenerates the more you love regenerates the more you love.
These aren't just some of Stephanie Johnstone's lyrics from Sometimes in Prague, they're also her own personal modus operandi; you can see them evinced in almost everything she does in life. We talk with her about polyamory, don't talk with her about marriage, and get some awesome music to dance to.
Describe your ideal relationship.
I'm in it! My primary partner (Dave!) and I have gorgeous trust and communication and crazy amounts of joy and love for each other which all exceed what I could have imagined before knowing him. I'm consistently inspired and challenged by him, and he knows me better than anyone else in the world. He is deeply kind and fiercely intelligent, and he truly brings out the best in me.
These aren't just some of Stephanie Johnstone's lyrics from Sometimes in Prague, they're also her own personal modus operandi; you can see them evinced in almost everything she does in life. We talk with her about polyamory, don't talk with her about marriage, and get some awesome music to dance to.
Describe your ideal relationship.
I'm in it! My primary partner (Dave!) and I have gorgeous trust and communication and crazy amounts of joy and love for each other which all exceed what I could have imagined before knowing him. I'm consistently inspired and challenged by him, and he knows me better than anyone else in the world. He is deeply kind and fiercely intelligent, and he truly brings out the best in me.
We've been happily and healthily polyamorous for over five years, which, for us, means that Dave is my solidity and my rock, and we're choosing daily to build a life together... and that we both love a number of different people in a number of different ways. I love that we created our own vocabulary for our relationship - we even thought (very mistakenly) that we had invented polyamory, at first!
What's the most unlikely way you've ever made a friend?
Paper airplane note passing on an airplane.
Paper airplane note passing on an airplane.
What song makes you want to dance more than any other?
Ooh! So many! I can't pick just one!
Unabashedly exuberant flailing around: Canards Sauvages by Camille
Epic running and leaping and headbanging: Is There Life On Mars? by David Bowie
Silly sexy faces and gyrations: When Doves Cry by Prince
Do you think it's possible to love more than one person at a time?
Hell yes.
Your thoughts on marriage in six syllables or fewer.
Irrelevant.
When do you know you're in love?
It feels like I fall in love with everybody ALL THE TIME.
To break down my blatant hyperbole:
I have crushes on just about everyone I know.
The more I know someone, the more beautiful I find them.
Of course I love some people much more deeply than others, but it doesn't seem useful or necessary to overtly stratify.
I don't know about some magical sort of "in love" threshold that one crosses over into happy soulmate land. That whole idea seems, to me, both absurd and limiting.
Irrelevant.
When do you know you're in love?
It feels like I fall in love with everybody ALL THE TIME.
To break down my blatant hyperbole:
I have crushes on just about everyone I know.
The more I know someone, the more beautiful I find them.
Of course I love some people much more deeply than others, but it doesn't seem useful or necessary to overtly stratify.
I don't know about some magical sort of "in love" threshold that one crosses over into happy soulmate land. That whole idea seems, to me, both absurd and limiting.
The most private thing you're willing to admit is:
For better or for worse, when asked about "private" things, my mind goes to "sexual" things. And generally, while I think it's all fine and cool to keep things to oneself, I also think that people should talk more openly about sex, and that maybe then some miscommunications and stigmas could be diffused.
So: private-ish things, hmmmm... where to begin?
That my recent forays into tantra prove to me that it is, indeed, as mindblowing as it is rumored to be? That in BDSM terms, I tend to be a top, but the hottest thing is when someone can top me? That I'm not at all shy about the label "pansexual"? That playing four hand piano arrangements of Beethoven symphonies is a major aphrodisiac?
For better or for worse, when asked about "private" things, my mind goes to "sexual" things. And generally, while I think it's all fine and cool to keep things to oneself, I also think that people should talk more openly about sex, and that maybe then some miscommunications and stigmas could be diffused.
So: private-ish things, hmmmm... where to begin?
That my recent forays into tantra prove to me that it is, indeed, as mindblowing as it is rumored to be? That in BDSM terms, I tend to be a top, but the hottest thing is when someone can top me? That I'm not at all shy about the label "pansexual"? That playing four hand piano arrangements of Beethoven symphonies is a major aphrodisiac?
People should see Sometimes in Prague because:
I want everyone to join this particular conversation about mindfulness and authenticity and love!
I want everyone to join this particular conversation about mindfulness and authenticity and love!
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